MBTI Type Indicator (MBTI)

I did the MBTI (Myers Briggs Type Indicator), a psychometric questionnaire designed to identify certain psychological differences according to the typological theories of Carl Jung. It was first developed on the belief that a knowledge of personality preferences would help women who were entering the industrial workforce for the first time identify the sort of war-time jobs where they would be "most comfortable and effective".

You can take the test here: http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm

My results are INFJ, what's yours? =)

The different types' forecasted compatibilities can be found here: http://www.socionics.com/rel/rel.htm.

Am I compatible with you? ;)

Personally, I tend to take this simply as a guideline to take note of different things about myself or with respects to others rather than allow myself to be "boxed" into this type.

Sex and the City (Singapore version): Season N Ep 1

While trying to concentrate on finishing a sudoku puzzle in the mrt on the way to work, a monologue, loud enough for all the passengers in the MRT cabin to hear, of 1 girl to her friend disturbed my concentration.

(Edited version to removed objectionable words)
Girl 1: (Sobbing loudly) My boyfriend has absolutely no respect for me. Sleeping around with other girls is one thing, but coming back to tell me about their sexcapades? This is totally unacceptable.
Girl 2: (Looking sympathetic while patting her hand)
Girl 1: I mean, what kind of foundation is he building in our relationship? Even if we were to get married, it would go nowhere, we would end with divorce.
Girl 2: (Nodding her head, empathising with her friend)
Girl 1: I can't believe it, we're reached the stage where I'm even considering marrying him. I mean, I've come into this relationship thinking that I can leave him anytime, and now he's left me far too deep in love with him.
Girl 2: You know for me and my boyfriend...
Girl 1: You know he's so sweet, he does... and and .... he had even proposed to me, but then had laughed it off and changed his mind quickly....

This led me to wonder: "When is "enough is enough"?

Your call... ;)

Dance like no one's watching

MSN between Mr Fox and myself many, many moons ago:

Mr Fox: You'll never be good in salsa.
Me: You know, that's so encouraging. Thanks for letting me know.
Mr Fox: You're not hiao enough lah.

I don't know whether to be flattered or insulted at this point so I did my usual diversionary tactic of changing the topic.

I wonder if it's the experience that comes with age (Gasp!) but sometimes I'm saddened by the changes that happen in me. From being a chirpy, forthcoming girl (who usually says the wrong thing, apologising unabashedly before being forgiven magnanimously by the other party), I've somehow changed into this self-conscious hag who is conscious about not making a mistake, not saying the wrong thing and not stepping on anyone's toes.

And somehow, this translates into my dancing as well.

It's alright when I'm following a partner, feeling free to express myself, styling without abandon even if it sometimes interfere with his lead (oops). But somehow when the lead lets me go or even just stand stock still to encourage me to shine or style, I suddenly feel like I'm floating in space - awkwardly manoeuvring back to a place with gravity.

This happens even despite the tips and encouragement of nice girls, like Danielle and Chantel who try to explain how to signal that the shine movement parts have ended. All these sound well and good in my head. But when it gets to the dance floor...

I think Mr Fox is right. Some girls just show their best side when they know others are watching, and are thus able to play with and have chemistry with the audience.

For ordinary girls like me, this advice might be best:
"Work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching."

The heart of the matter, is the matter of the heart. Whether from the lack of self-consciousness (in a good way), the full seizing of the moment, or just simply enjoying the surroundings as it is (with the music, the people and most importantly, the dance partner.) It is setting the heart and body loose to go with the flow.

With that principle in place, I'd guess it's just a matter of modelling and learning the strategies. Now, to get my body to listen to that same maxim... :)